“The fact is, once we look beyond our surface emotional reaction, we will see that almost every negative emotion, every drama, comes down to one or more of the three most basic fears: the fear of losing safety and control, the fear of loneliness and disconnection, and the fear of unworthiness.”
Case #54: Unmon Stretches His Arms
Unmon asked a monk, “Where have you come from?”
The monk said, “From Saizen.”
Unmon said, “What words does Saizen say lately?”
The monk stretched out his arms.
Unmon slapped him.
The monk said, “I have something to say about it.”
Unmon then stretched out his own arms.
The monk remained silent.
Then Unmon hit him.